Why Won’t My Teen Talk to Me Anymore?

“Why won’t my teen talk to me anymore?” This question breaks so many moms. The quiet can feel like rejection, like the bond you worked so hard to build is slipping away.

And of course you feel hurt. Anyone would. It feels personal when the child you love shuts the door, rolls their eyes, or offers nothing more than a one-word answer.

Here’s the Create Family way to look at this:

Connection isn’t about how much your teen talks. It’s about how you create the space for them to be heard. Teens don’t need you to force conversation. They need intentional time where they can lead, and you can listen. That’s what I call connection time.

When you lead your family like a team, you create predictable moments where your teen has the floor. You show them: “I’m here. I’m listening. You matter.”

But again, it starts with you. When you’re stretched thin, connection time feels impossible. If you’re drained, you’ll rush through it, or worse, avoid it altogether. But when you’re steady and prepared, you can show up calm and available.

Here’s one way to shift the silence into something meaningful:

• Name the goal for yourself. Write one sentence about what you want to build this year. Maybe it’s: “I want to build trust with my teen so they know they can come to me.”

• Sit down with your teen. Share the goal and ask what it looks like to them. They might say, “I want 10 minutes after dinner to talk without interruptions,” or “I want you to listen without fixing.” When they help shape it, the willingness to engage grows.

• Talk about the goal often. Keep connection time simple, predictable, and consistent. And when your teen resists or pulls away, gently remind them, “This is the direction we’re going.” Ignore the sighs, the sarcasm, or the slammed doors. The goal is not a lecture point. It’s a compass. You’re saying, “I’m going to help us get there.”

Even when they roll their eyes, they’re noticing. Even when they give you nothing, your consistency is teaching them that connection matters. Over time, the trust builds.

Your teen doesn’t need you to be perfect. They need you to be present. And presence, when done with strategy and intention, speaks louder than any words they’re not saying.

Feeling like the little things set you off more than they should?

Most reactivity doesn’t actually have to do with your kids. It’s about the weight you’re carrying, the plates stacked too high, the endless pull on your energy, and that sense that even the smallest argument could push you past your limit.

I know how heavy that feels. And I want you to know you don’t have to stay in that place.

That’s why I created the Mom Survival Guide: Clear the Chaos.

This isn’t another system that makes you feel behind before you even start. It’s a simple reset, a way to quiet the noise, clear the confusion, and take back those “where do I even start?” moments so you can show up as the mom you’ve always wanted to be.

Inside, you’ll find small but powerful steps that bring back:

• Calm when your home feels overwhelming

• Clarity when you’re pulled in every direction

• Confidence that you can lead your family without losing yourself

👉 Download your free guide now and let’s take that first step together.