#054 Why Your Kids Don’t Help (And What to Do Instead)

You ever feel like the whole house is on your shoulders? Like if you stop moving, everything just falls apart? I’ve been there. You clean up one mess just in time to trip over another. And when no one’s helping—or worse, they’re complaining—it’s easy to lose it. Then the guilt hits. You yelled. You handled it all again. You’re mad that you’re mad.

But here’s what I started to realize: my home didn’t need a superhero. It needed a leader. I started calling it the “executive over my household.” That’s what I became. But let me be clear. Being an executive isn’t some natural superpower you’re born with. It’s something you learn. And no one taught us how to do this. Not in school. Not in parenting books. Definitely not on social media.

But once I stopped waiting for someone else to teach me and started thinking differently, everything shifted.

6 Mindset Shifts That Change Everything

1. From “I’m the only one who can do it right”
   To “They won’t learn if I never let them try.”
   It’s not gonna be pretty at first, but perfect isn’t the goal.

2. From “They never listen unless I yell”
   To “My calm actually lands better.”
   Turns out, yelling works. But so does leading. And that one leaves you feeling better.

3. From “Chores are punishment”
   To “Chores are life prep.”
   We’re not doing this for a clean kitchen. We’re building confidence.

4. From “This has to get done now”
   To “This is a moment to teach.”
   You can get it done or you can slow down and use it to build your team. One will last longer.

5. From “I might as well do it myself”
   To “If I train them now, I’ll have help later.”
   I had to stop thinking short-term. I wasn’t just trying to survive the day. I was building something.

6. From “They should just know how to do this”
   To “It’s my job to train, not expect.”
   Expecting without training sets us both up to lose. This one changed everything for me.

If any of these shifts hit a little close to home, you’re not doing it wrong—you’re just carrying too much alone. These moments when it all feels heavy? They’re actually invitations to lead differently. To think bigger. To parent with strategy instead of just survival. You don’t need to overhaul everything overnight, but you do need a starting point.

That’s why I put together a guide that walks you through these exact shifts and how to actually make them happen in real life.

Download the guide: How to Get Your Kids to Help Without Losing Your 💩
You’ll feel seen, supported, and finally have a plan that works.