#052 Chores Aren’t About A Clean House

Let me say something that might surprise you:

Chores were never about a clean house.

They’ve always been about the relationship.

When I think back to the early years in my home, I remember how much energy I spent trying to get my kids to do what needed to be done. I’d ask gently. Then firmly. Then with that tone I didn’t love. Then I’d end up doing it myself just to avoid the blow-up.

And honestly? I thought I was failing.

But here’s what I’ve learned:

Kids don’t thrive under pressure. They thrive under purpose.

If your child is pushing back, dragging their feet, or ignoring you entirely, it doesn’t mean they’re lazy or ungrateful and despite popular opinion they are not trying to manipulate you. It usually means the meaning behind the work isn’t clear.

Because when we treat chores like something to suffer through, they do too.
But when we bring connection into it, even just a little... it changes how they show up.

So ask yourself this, "What is it that I want my kids to get out of doing chores?"

Because one day, they’re going to build a life of their own. And what they believe about work, family, and their role in it? It’s being formed right now... while they’re putting silverware away and wiping counters with you.

So the next time you ask for help and feel that resistance rise up - pause.

Ask yourself:

• Am I just trying to get something done?
• Or am I using this moment to build something deeper?

That’s the shift.

And if you’re wondering how to actually make that shift in your home - we’re working on it every day inside the Create Family Community. 

You don’t need to figure it out alone.
But you do deserve a home that runs with more peace, more pride, and a lot more teamwork.

Love,
Sunny