#050 What If I’m Not Enjoying Motherhood?

It was just one of those days.

The boys were already at it before breakfast, I was running late for work, and I could feel the pressure building before the day had even begun.

Somewhere between managing meltdowns, trying to find a clean pair of socks, and grabbing a granola bar for myself on the way out the door, a thought hit me:

What if this all passes in a blur? What if I miss the actual joy of raising my children because I’m buried in the chaos of it?

That was the moment I knew something had to change.

I didn’t want to spend these years just getting by. I wanted to experience them—fully. The connection, the laughter, the love. I wanted to be present, not just productive. And to do that, I had to get honest with myself about what was causing the most overwhelm.

It wasn’t just that life was busy. It was that I was constantly reacting to everything.

So I took a step back and looked at my household with fresh eyes.

And what I saw was something I recognized from my days in the professional world:

This wasn’t just a family—it was a team. And it was a team without a plan.

That’s when the idea first came to me: What if I ran my family with the same intentionality I used to bring to work?

Not to make things rigid or impersonal—but to bring clarity, purpose, and unity to our home.

So, I started simple.

We sat down together and created a mission statement. We wrote out what mattered to us: love, growth, respect, adventure, teamwork. We started to talk about our values not just in the big moments, but in the small, everyday ones too.

We talked about expectations—what it meant to be a part of our family team. Not as a list of rules, but as a shared agreement: Here’s how we treat each other. Here’s how we show up.

And then we built rhythms that supported that.

Simple routines.
Clear responsibilities.
Time carved out for fun. For dreaming. For just being together.

What I discovered is something I remind moms of all the time now: There is hard work in parenting no matter how you do it, whether you’re flying by the seat of your pants or running your home with structure.

But one day I asked myself: Which hard do I want?

The kind that’s exhausting and chaotic, or the kind that builds something beautiful?

I chose the second.

Because when you run your family with intention—when there’s a plan, a purpose, and a shared direction—things don’t just get easier…

They get richer.
You create space for connection, not just correction.
You catch the moments that matter.
And the daily chaos starts to feel more like momentum.

That’s what I want for you.

Not a perfect home.
Not a schedule down to the minute.
But a family that knows where it’s going—and is walking it together.

Because that? That’s the kind of home that lasts.

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